Whether you adore Valentine’s Day as the pinnacle of True Romance, or find it an annoying example of Commerce Ruining Everything, there is no getting away from the fact that Love will be on many people’s minds this month. Unfortunately this will confront many of us with painful issues & memories: loneliness, heartbreak, unhappiness, disappointment, or even violence.

Let me tell you a bit about my own first Valentine’s. I was about 13 & back then everyone still knew that Valentine’s Day is all about declaring your feelings anonymously (not that there’s anything wrong with handing your long-suffering spouse a fistful of roses, mind). There was one boy in my class who had been mooning after me for years & to whom I may not always have been too kind. He had even gone so far as to put a note in my pocket, over which I giggled mercilessly with a friend, although I felt bad about it later.

So this Valentine’s I had decided to reciprocate his feelings at last & I made him a card which I sent him anonymously, through the mail even if his house was only a ten minute walk away. Of course he knew straight away that it was from me & he replied (rather triumphantly I thought, which may have been what I deserved) that he was already in love with someone else.

At this reply I made one of the worst mistakes of my clueless young life: I wrote him another letter telling him that I’d wait. Which has cost me years of fostering a fruitless obsession, pain & unhappiness, and more importantly the energy that it cost me to suppress the nagging feeling that I should just Let It Go. No one had taught me that. No one taught me anything much about my feelings.

By now I have forgiven myself & I can look with compassion at the deeply unhappy & (undiagnosed) depressed teen I was then. I mean, we’re talking about a girl who wrote in all earnest in her diary that her stuffed animals were her best friends. What can anyone expect? And so I am also very proud of the moment that I made a conscious decision to Let It Go. If only we’d had Frozen back then. Or the Vampire Tarot for that matter.

For some of you may know that I recently ended a relationship of eight years, a decision that has lifted an enormous weight from my shoulders. The Vampire Tarot, with its uncanny, unerring ability to reveal unhealthy patterns, has helped me greatly in this process. It confirmed in no uncertain manner that it was time to let go. And after I did, great changes for the better have come into my life, simply because I no longer had to put all my energy into pulling at a dead horse, as a rather stark Dutch expression has it.

That is why I am celebrating Love this month by offering you the Un-Suck Your Love Life Vampire Tarot Reading to you: to help you discover what unhealthy patterns are sucking your love life dry & draining your will to improve things or to move on. 

I’m also putting my extensive triple 10-card Tarot, Lenormand & Charms Relationship Reading on half-price for the month of February.

Because True Romance can only start when you love yourself best & first.

I’ll write a blog/review about my experiences with the Vampire Tarot later this week so you’ll know what to expect… Which is the unexpected!